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Heart of Dakota Blog

Teaching Boys Good Habits Right Away

  • Carrie Austin, M.Ed.
  • / Pondering Placement
  • / September 15, 2021
Heart of Dakota - Pondering Placement - Teaching Boys Good Habits Right Away

Teaching Boys Good Habits Right Away

I bought Heart of Dakota’s Little Hands to Heaven (LHTH) for my 3 turning 4-year old son. When it came time to start, he fought me on it! He was not excited to start like his sister was at that age. So, after a few days I set it aside. Since then, he has shown interest in the R & S Workbooks. He does them really well when he wants. He sees his older siblings doing their guides and has gotten more interested. So, we tried doing the first week of LHTH again. He just doesn’t seem as engaged as his older sisters were. I am doing Little Hearts for His Glory (LHFHG) with my 6 year-old daughter, but I don’t think that would be a good fit for him yet. It is too advanced for him. What should I do?

Carrie’s Reply in Regard to Teaching Boys:

I’ll share a few things I’ve discovered in my homeschool journey with my own 4 boys. One thing to be aware of is that many little boys will battle you just to battle. They have in their little minds what they want to do (which often is play), and they don’t want to be told otherwise. It’s important to remember that with homeschooling your role has shifted now with you being both the teacher and the mama.

Teaching Boys the Habit of Respectful Obedience

One thing that helps my boys is for me to tell them that if they went to school, they would have to do what their teacher said. When they are at home, the same is true now, because I am their teacher. This means when I tell them to do something, I expect them to respect me and obey. If they do not obey, there will be consequences. At our house, for a quick effective consequence, we had our little boys stand with their nose in the corner for not obeying. We had them stand 30 seconds up to a minute for each year of their age. They were not to look out from the corner, or we would start the timer again. When they came out of the corner, they needed to say why they were there and then apologize and behave differently. If not, it was back to the corner. For us, that was very effective.

How Carpet Squares Help Little Boys Focus

Next, for my little ones, I got a carpet square for them to sit on (one per child). I sat on my own carpet square. This delineates a space for them to be. To start our LHTH, we always got out the carpet squares and sat down. Then, we read the Bible story first. I held up the Bible and showed the pictures to my little one. He stayed on his carpet square, and I stayed on mine. This effectively ended all wrestling that had previously happened when I tried to keep my little one on my lap, and also ended any rolling around on the floor!

This also helped our boys see me as the teacher!

This also showed me as the teacher sharing the book with him. It helped establish my role. Honestly, teaching LHTH is much more about establishing your role as a teacher than it is about tricking your child into having fun. Your child will eventually have fun doing LHTH, once your role is established. Until then, your son will battle you for control by simply refusing and complaining. After I read the Bible story, then I asked the questions. I expected some answer, but I didn’t drag the activity out. Next, we put on the music and marched around the room while it played. We marched in a circle and kept even the marching in control (i.e. no falling down on the ground, pushing, etc.). I marched too.

Thoughts on Boys and the Fingerplays

Then, we came back to our carpet squares and did the fingerplay. My boys had to participate, or we would start over. I said a line and did the motion, then they said a line and did the motion (echo style). We did this the first 2-3 days of the fingerplay. The last 2-3 days we did it together with no echoing. They had two chances to start right in with me, or they went to the corner. I don’t allow any eye-rolling or silliness with the fingerplay, but we did have fun and smile.

The fingerplays actually are meant for the two sides of the brain to communicate with one another doing both sounds and motions at the same time. This takes coordination of the two sides of the brain, making the fingerplays have a hidden element. The motions also provide a great cuing system for the sounds later when your child begins to read. We only did the fingerplay once, so the whole activity even with echoing was over in just minutes. My boys need to be able to do what I tell them for just a few minutes cheerfully, even if it something happens not to be their favorite thing. This is because my time is important, and as a teacher I expect to be obeyed.

Boys and Hands-on Activities

Next, we went on to the letter activity or the hands-on activity. We typically left the more art-oriented things (or things needing to be done at the table) to be done last. In this way, we moved to the table last of all. Boys tend to love hands-on activities, so they would often keep enjoying this activity while I moved on to teaching an older son!

You can start LHTH half-speed to help train your son.

For now, I would work on doing LHTH at half-speed, doing 3 boxes each day. I would work on having your son come to school right when you call him and work on making sure he obeys you. To help him obey, I would make sure to do his school in the morning at about the same time, so he knows it is coming. Boys do better knowing what is coming! If he does not obey, I would warn him once and then give an effective, quick consequence each time he does not obey. You may find yourself giving more consequences than doing school right now. However, keep your cool and stay calm. If you do use the corner, then when he returns, after he apologizes, cheerfully go back to the school again.

Boys don’t like to be randomly pulled away from playing to do school, so routine helps.

Make sure that you do not pull him away from play randomly to do school, or he will really battle you. Instead, have his school begin after he has just completed something that has a definite ending point, like an educational DVD. Keep his routine the same, so he knows that school always comes after the same thing in his day. You want him to expect school and know it is coming.

Boys rarely battle when they see you as the teacher with an established routine to follow.

I say all of this to help you see that LHTH is about training your son to see you as the teacher and to obey you the first time you ask him to do something. This is so important to his schooling to come and will save you many battles along the way in the future. If you don’t feel that you want to train him now, then don’t start LHTH. When you do start, know you are about the training and will need to devote time to it each day. My hope is to give you some practical advice that helped me be a better teacher. I enjoy school with my older sons today, because the routine was established when they were younger. We battle very little with our older ones thanks to the foundation laid in the younger years.

Blessings,
Carrie

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This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. Gloria Rayman June 17, 2020 Reply

    There is so much wisdom in what you share Carrie. I love the idea of the carpet squares because it gives the little one the opportunity to chose to stay on the square. He can choose little by little to govern himself in this way. It is his choice to stay there or face the consequences. There are many “smooth and easy days” once we get this down.

    1. Julie Grosz, M.Ed. June 17, 2020 Reply

      So glad you found wisdom in this blog post, Gloria! Carpet squares and boys are a good pairing in homeschooling, and you are right, they are worth the effort because “smooth and easy days” keep us all happily homeschooling!

  2. Suanna Sears June 17, 2020 Reply

    Yes! Routine is key and making sure not to interrupt something “fun” is really important. I don’t have any carpet squares, but on extra wiggly days I would point out a piece of fuzz on the floor and have them stand or sit on it. Sometimes I put a piece of tape on the floor to designate their space and other times I have used tape to make a box on the floor and they had to sit in the box. They learned to leave the tape on the floor until the day I gave them permission to take it off. Now little boys know that after breakfast they have free play and when I call for school they come cheerfully and after school they get to do an activity, which is playing with something fun they only get to use that day.

    1. Julie Grosz, M.Ed. June 18, 2020 Reply

      Awesome ideas here, Suanna! The tape idea is something any mom of busy boys could try today! I liked the idea of giving them permission to take off the tape after they’ve shown themselves to be consistent with staying within their squares. It was also encouraging to read your sons’ positive reactions and cheerful attitudes to the way you set up their day with both routine and with attention to not interrupting what they considered “fun.”

  3. Genevieve January 16, 2022 Reply

    I feel like I missed this training with my son, now at 9.5 we have had many battles about school. He is my fourth after three girls who were easy to school and honestly I needed this wisdom 5 tears ago. Is it too late to establish these very important habits of attention and hard work? He is an extremely hard worker when it comes to things he wants to do but I definitely have missed the bus with training him to do his best at school. This is very wise advice from Carrie and I may just have to go back and do this training now. Thank you

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